Lunch with an old friend

This should have been my post yesterday. I had lunch with a male friend from my childhood days. The best part was he waited for me at Aseana when we agreed lunch was going to be at Little Penang. This friend is apparently looking for a job that is willing to pay him his value but not working is causing him to have serious dementia when he can't even remember a simple lunch location!

I think I have known him since I was 5 or 6 years of age and that was when my mother works at a Sekolah Ugama as the dining hall operator and his father was the headmaster of the school. We only met each other again probably in Std 5 or 6, he went to ACS primary school and I was at Convent Seremban. He continued his secondary school at MCKK while me (4A 1B and taklah sepandai orang yg dapat 5A) went to MRSM Seremban. He did Accountancy in Australia and I did mine in good ol' USA.

I married my husband dearest and had three kids (on the way to four now) and he married someone else and did not have any kids.

I don't think I am in the position to comment anything about not having kids and your priorities in life but just listening to him and his philosophy in life (wanting to die at 60, with you being pregnant at this age, you are not going to be able to retire, working in this company allows you to go home early to cater to your kids needs...) made me think

• Having a baby at any age is a delight (despite my incessant complaints about weight, nausea and tiredness) and this baby will have his or her rezeki allocation from God Almighty and we take that chance of having this baby and providing for this baby and if it means that I have to find another job at 55 to be able to give him or her educational opportunities, so be it!
• I don't know when my time comes to leave this world and that is part of life. The not knowing is what makes you look forward to life and of course, with children, you expect that you would be able to see them grow, graduate from school, work, marry, have children...but you can't put targets on your time to die and work your life backwards. Life is about looking forward!
• What is wrong with a company that provides you balance in earning money and dedicate what little time left for your family? You spend a good 10 hours out of 24 hours in your office every week day not to mention time spent thinking about work and reviewing papers/presentations done at home....is 3 hours too much to ask?